Tuesday, March 1, 2011

.........."SHOULD I TRUST YOU?".........


.........T R U S T ...........


        Who among us would given a loan for a house or make business agreements for a hand shake and man's word?  How many marriage have been broken because the husband wife distrusts hi/her own partner?  Have you experienced having no one come and confide in you or be slapped with someones saying of " I Don't Trust You".
      Our society lack trust in every level.  This is true to friendship, job, interest, or even over the phone....there is a crises of trust.  Trust is the mortar that holds the bricks of a relationship together.  Trust is earned not granted.  It is not ordered us  like eggs and bacon in a restaurant.  It is developed through the course of a relationship and through the course of years.  You cannot command someone to trust someone nor can you be expected to trust someone that you do not know.
      Many people speak of trust.  Many men proclaim their own loyalty, which can be trusted but not for long.  What is it that makes a person "worthy of trust?"  It is his/her Character.  If you do not have character, you cannot expect trust.  Our character springs from our attitudes.  The book of Galatians 3:22-25 says.  But the fruits of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, self-control, against such things there is no law.  Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with the passions and desires.  If we live by the spirit, let us also walk by the spirit.  If these attitudes dominate our life, then we cannot help but have people Trust us. 
      Still do not make false vows.  When you say you'll be there, be sure that you will be their.  Take care that you make promises only as often as you are able to keep them.  Let your nod be a word of honor because the next time you break your promise even how legitimate your reason would be...no one will believe you.
      If we speak of trust, we cannot help but talk about honesty.  The Bible tells us "Thou shall not lie".  Yes, we tell the truth.  But not fully .  What happens is that we spend so much time and energy hiding the truth that we end up saying little and little energy for telling the truth.  I believe that I am not truthful and how can I  believe that someone else is?  So, if we are going to build a relationship that is Authentic, committed and God  Honoring then we have to be honest.  We have to begin with trust.  Luke's Gospel says, whoever can be trusted with every little can also be trusted with very much.  Trust is one thing that takes a long time to build (so if you're trusted them you earned your trust) and will take only a very short time to destroy.  In an uncertain world, it will take time for people to trust you.  So take your time and build trust.....

1 comment:

  1. ...I TRUST YOU IF YOU DON'T LIE WITH ME....IT IS NOT EASY TO BUILD A TRUST... BUT YOU ONLY HAVE A SHORT TIME TO DESTROY THAT TRUST......SO, TAKE TIME TO BUILD.....

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